At the core of goal setting is a deep dive into your definition of what it means to make an impact with your time and resources while you are on the Earth. Yet, goals are viewed as an end, not a means. Too bad that isn’t true.
To many, the goal is the end. Google “goal setting,” and it is likely that you end up on a page that lists out specific goals, with lots of stories about the people and how they achieved them. You’ve seen the lists. They include items like:
- Achieve a physical milestone-lift such and such a weight, run a distance, etc.
- Go to the Super Bowl/World Series/Master’s, etc.
- Have a certain number of people follow you/like you/provide dopamine hits to your brain to justify the effort put into your social presence
- Be a guest star on Oprah (yes, I read online that someone really has that as their goal)
It takes no effort at all to realize that the act of stating your goals exposes how shallow and self-centered we humans are when it comes to defining the value of goals.
After all, the true definition of the value of a human is the impact that they make in the lives of others, one decision at a time.
One of my best friends recently resigned from a job to take a new, lesser paying job, so he would have time to execute on what he thinks is his life purpose. My friend is an engaging teacher, who loves to share his understanding of Biblical passages and blend them with anecdotal stories from the real world.
My friend’s tools include his understanding of ancient Greek and a cumulative total of the all the mornings he has spent listening to and reading the Bible. My friend also adds to his exposure on the topic by listening to podcasts, both related and unrelated, while working out. He immerses himself in scripture, as a discipline, like I do with running, cycling and strength training.
But there are literally tens of millions of people with the focus and dedication of my friend. Those efforts don’t separate him from people like you and me. But his life experiences do.
You see, his wife left him 7 years ago, using only a hand-written note to announce her departure. Then, she convinced their two children to have nothing to do with him. He has been intentionally separated from his children, grandchildren and their livelihood, based only on the words of a single, mentally ill woman. He is recently recovering from a heart attack that he knows, deep down, was preventable. My friend was given a 3rd chance.
When I think about what persecution means, the visualization I get includes my friend.
Yet, with all that noise, the inner voice telling him, “you need to teach,” has been loud and is only getting louder. His choice to take less money to have more time shows his courage to follow his heart and his intuition. Best of all, My friend remarried, and his new wife supports him completely. My friend had to experience pain and manage it, in ways that I can only imagine.
No pain, no gain. You have heard that before. What is missing in that phrase is whose pain and whose gain are we talking about. My friend has taken his personal pain and is making it into our gain. I look forward to hearing his latest teachings.
Sharing what you have learned from your pain is, after all, how you make an impact on humanity.
What pain have you experienced that you can share?
We are all listening.